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This was early in the dating process (first date or two)

This was early in the dating process (first date or two)

This was early in the dating process (first date or two)

I dropped them like hot cakes when I found out becauseif they lied about something as simple as age, how could I trust them for things like: having children? already being married? The rest of his life.Maybe it would have been different if I found out many dates later. Anywho, that was my experience and why I wouldn’t do it, but YMMV. posted by Wolfster at 8:51 PM on [5 favorites]

You would have lied about something right off the bat, and a lot of people are going to treat that like a deal-breaker in a relationship, even if they are themselves shallow and dumb for not wanting to date a 34-year-old

If they don’t want to date someone who’s 34, they don’t want to date someone who’s 34. I don’t think it’s awful of you to want to; I just don’t think it can possibly end well for anything except short-term flings.

I would say it would be better to look at what else you bring to the table, whether your own standards need to be relaxed a bit, or whether it’s a good time to start looking for people some other way. None of these things means there’s really anything wrong with you, but if you have a dearth of people showing interest, the usual thing is that you need to either be more interesting, look for people who are less picky, or find somewhere to meet people where they’ll get to know you more before looking at you as a potential partner. Read more about This was early in the dating process (first date or two)